Self-Reflection

Who do you think you are?

When it comes to achieving self-actualization, often times, we are our biggest adversary.

Prime Example:

When you are in the moment of thinking about your next accomplishment in life or making a decision that can change your life positively something questions our integrity to do such a thing. For instance, you may decide that it is time to go back to school, change your career, move, switch jobs, or leave a toxic relationship. That voice, you know the voice I am referring to, says, “That is not going to work.”

Then you hear, “Who do you think you are?” or “What the hell made you believe for one second that you were worthy or capable of such a thing?” How do you cope with such negative self-talk? How do you respond?

Be Still

One way that I have managed the negative self-talk that I experience while on this journey is to be still. Not physically, but mentally. Quiet your mind in order to provide space for your heart to speak.

Our self-doubts manifest themselves in many ways. Being mentally still is one way we can quell that inner voice that is working against all that we are and all that we aspire to become.

Be Still. Once you have achieved stillness, it is okay to ask, “What is triggering my doubtfulness? What am I really afraid of? How can I take steps to overcome this feeling?” We do have a right to feel however we want in any situation, however, it is our actions (in response) to said situation that really matters.

Case in point

About three years ago, I decided to apply for a Ph.D. program at the CUNY Graduate Center in New York City, before I hit that submit button on the application portal, doubt washed over me. I asked myself, “What the hell are you doing? You are not prepared for this. What makes you think that you will get into this program?”

I went ahead (pushed through my doubt) and pressed submit anyway. I did not have anything to lose and the worst that could happen would still leave my life intact. Weeks later, I discovered that I did not get into the Ph.D. program, but I got into Columbia University. My experience at Columbia University continues to shape me in my journey as an everyday Shero.

Sometimes we have to be willing to sit in stillness, identify the purpose of our doubts, and push forth despite our negative self-talk. You see. my beautiful beings, you are mentally stronger than your doubts and fears. Sometimes, it is the fear that is inside of us that propels us to the next level. Sitting in stillness, and interrogating my doubts made me realize that I was not a failure if I did not get into the Ph.D. program.

Consequently, when I received my acceptance email from Columbia University, I immediately became afraid of succeeding and then became afraid of failing. But, I pushed through despite my self-generated doubts because I provided my heart time to speak.

In October of 2019, I received my second masters degree.

The Power in YOU!

We ARE not our feelings! Our negative self-talk does not have power over us. We are stronger than we believe ourselves to be. Believe and accept that fact. I encourage you to tap into your potential by being still, interrogating your doubt and then push toward your excellence.

Who do you think you are?

You are a divine being, perfect in all your imperfections. We are greatness unfolding by virtue of our existence! Be still beautiful everyday Sheroes— YOU GOT THIS!

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